I don’t know why we as humans have to have a first place or a “best ______.” I’m not sure why we don’t have variations of good–you know, where you may be good at something and then someone else is really good at it and then someone else is really really good at it, but there’s never a clear number one or best all around. I’m just not sure why we said ixnay to the latter idea.
Oh yea, because winning is AWESOME.
Think about it. We study to be the smartest person in the class or we rush to be the first one to finish a test… (Ok, I swear that was a competition before we realized the true purpose of taking a test) We street race and compete against each other in all sorts of ridiculous things just for the chance to say, “I’m number one.” (maybe for a chance to “C-walk” too?)
There’s nothing wrong with winning or wanting to be number one; so it baffles me just a little when I hear people say, “Oh, you shouldn’t try to be the best, just do the best you can.” Or, “Yea that’s cool but generally only these types of people achieve that.” O_o
Someone has to be number one if there is a number one to be had. That’s just how humanity rolls. We have an insatiable hunger to make most things a competition.
And you know what else?
People don’t get to number one by looking to settle. It takes a specific concentration and desire to get to number one. Saying, “I’m cool with settling” doesn’t usually get you to the number one spot. That is why the “hope for the best, but don’t expect to be number one” advice can be so detrimental.
“Well, some people don’t care about being number one.” *clears throat* Everyone who would like to be great at something, to win, or be number one, please raise your hand. Now continue reading…
I get it, some folks are just trying to be realistic and assist you with “putting things in perspective.” I’m sure we can appreciate that…however I simply cannot agree with the idea that anyone has the right to tell you to settle. (I’m pretty sure I’ve said that before…) Plus, if you’re not careful, you will allow those who didn’t achieve to donate their wonderful mantra of realism to you. (Hint: It’s not that wonderful)
The next time someone tells you it’s ok to settle, try redirecting your conversation to someone who won the gold.
“Winners will tell you it isn’t easy, but they will never tell you it can’t be done.” -Shanti